For women & femmes who want to break free from patterns they're stuck in and feel energized and connected to their partners and loved ones (even if you haven't met them yet).
Sex & Trauma Therapy
for individuals and couples
So you can go from:
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having out-of-the-blue crying spells at work...to feeling calm, present, and in-control of your emotions
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feeling completely overwhelmed on how to make your sex life "click" for you and your partner(s)...to having the skills and knowledge to communicate and explore- a satisfying sex life for all!
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being terrified to date post-sexual assault... to building trust with your heart and body to find love again
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hiding who you really are (gender non-conforming and into kink)... to wearing your "NB Daddy" t-shirt out to lunch
I know...
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that you're ready to break out of this phase of your relationship: the one where no one is satisfied by your sex life and you cannot stop fighting- it doesn't matter how many self-help books you read or podcasts you listen to, your relationship still feels one comment away from an explosion.
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that you're sick of always feeling like you don't fit in and that no one likes you or gets you- you want to embrace who you are and have a krewe that sees and supports you no matter what.
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that the weight of the shame you carry is so heavy and it's making you literally sick (breakouts, stomach problems, exhaustion), you haven't felt light and playful in years- sometimes you wonder if that feeling is lost forever (spoiler alert: it's not).
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Are you ready to build a sex life where everyone gets their needs met (even if you don't know what those are yet)?
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Are you ready to set healthy boundaries without even thinking about it?
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Are you ready to ditch the people pleasing and feel confident in your relationships?
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Are you ready to re-discover your sense of play, curiosity, and open-ness (in the bedroom and outside)?
Fictional AF Client Stories
Jaylah worked her ass off: studying hard to be the best in her class and fulfill her dream of breaking into the marketing world.
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Her career was going great, but her social life was falling apart. She never felt like she fit in with any of her friends, even though she'd known them for years.
She was sick and tired of crying all the time. Dating felt impossible under these circumstances.
Jaylah
Jaylah built a toolbox to communicate her needs with her friends: and the ones who didn't support her? She had the confidence to let them go.
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We worked on building her self-confidence so she was able to develop her own hobbies and make new friends too. This not only made her life more fun, it also took the pressure off of her to find a romantic relationship.
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Once she felt like she had tons of great-fit friendships, she re-downloaded the dating apps. Ready to put her new skills to the test!
Lauren & Paul
Lauren and Paul came to couples' counseling and also had their own individual counselors. This combo gave them the support they needed to unravel this web.
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Using a mix of talk therapy and somatic exercises, Lauren & Paul were able to build physical and emotional safety. They also practiced healthy communication and started to prioritize quality time with one another.
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They came up with a plan to explore Lauren's kinky interests in a way that felt safe for everyone: they started by dipping a toe in first and then slowly built up.
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They've never felt emotionally and physically closer and are enjoying their "second honeymoon".
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Amari
Amari went back and forth with her ex a few times, but started to realize this man was never going to give her what she wanted.
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She found healthy ways to cope with the tough feelings of the breakup and make meaning out of it.
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She learned a lot about herself in the process and has never felt more confident and self-assured. She knows what she wants and she won't settle for less.
Imagine...
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feeling secure and peaceful in your relationship: trusting that you have the skills to get through the hard times and still find ways to play together.
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feeling deep love and appreciation towards your body for not only surviving the trauma you went through, but helping you build a life that feels so damn juicy.
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owning your authentic self and not shape-shifting to make other people comfortable anymore. Imagine the way you could change the world with that alone!
Myth vs. Reality: Sex Therapy Edition
The amount of education on human sexuality that I got in graduate school?
Ummmm...maybe an hour? Maybe?
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The rest I picked up in the field (I started working with full-service sex workers and folks living with HIV/AIDS in San Francisco in 2011) and through advanced training with the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists and my Somatic training.
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So sadly the majority of therapists do not have extensive training on human sexuality. Which is wild because relationships, intimacy, pleasure, joy, and connection are very big parts of a healthy life (even if that doesn't look the same for you as it does for others)!
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Read on to see common misconceptions about sex therapy...
Myth
Sex therapy is only for "weird" or "taboo" issues
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Sex therapy only involves physical acts
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Sex therapy is only for couples
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I want to tell you "x" but I'm worried you'll judge me! It's too weird.
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It's embarrassing to go to sex therapy...
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I'm worried you'll impose your own beliefs or morals on me
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Sex therapy is a last resort, right?
Reality
First of all- all kinks welcome! Second of all- some of the most common topics are communication, mismatched libidos, navigating aging, intimacy post-children, and recovering from sexual trauma.
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Sex therapy focuses on the psychological, emotional, and relational aspects of sexual issues. It often involves talking about feelings, beliefs, and relationship dynamics. No physical contact or sexual activity occurs during sessions.
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I've spent over a decade helping women and femmes reclaim their sexuality on their own terms. Individuals also seek sex therapy to address issues like performance anxiety, low libido, trauma, or to learn more about their own sexuality.
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Reality
Believe me- I've spent a lot of time and energy to become a sex therapist. I wouldn't have sought this out if I was a judgmental B!
Sex therapists are trained professionals who create a nonjudgmental, safe, and supportive environment for clients to discuss sensitive topics.
Reality
I think it's the most courageous thing you can do! In a society that shames folks (especially women & femmes) for healthy sexuality, taking proactive steps to live your most satisfying and pleasure-filled life is the bravest f*cking thing.
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If everyone in the world looked the same and liked the same things, this would be a boring f*cking world.
I'm also ethically bound to honor my license which says that you are the best judge of what is right for you.
Reality
If I could wave my magic wand and change one thing it would be to have folks come in sooner.
Sexuality concerns don't just "go away" and addressing them early on prevents larger problems.
Also why waste another minute not living your most pleasurable life?
This is for you if...
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you're so f*cking sick of putting everyone else's needs before your own: at work, with family and friends, and in the bedroom.
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you want to stop worrying about the future so that you can be present and enjoy your life.
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fast casual is for food: not therapy. You want a premium service tailored to you and your needs.​
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you're sick and tired of relationships & friendships dead-ending, they never last as long or feel as good as you thought they would.
- you're the one everyone goes to when they need to be taken care of: whether that's your job (therapist, sex worker, doctor, nurse), your role (parent, caregiver) or somehow you're the friend group's "unofficial therapist".
This is NOT for you if...
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you hate cursing (also how did you make it this far?!)
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you're not really ready to make a change: you'd rather keep doing what you're doing.
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you expect me to do the work for you. This only works if you work it.
THIS
YOU?
I'm Eleanor
hey there
therapist & somatic coach
I'm a New Orleans-based sex therapist who specializes in helping people pleasers, survivors of trauma, and couples reduce their stress, anxiety, and live their life in full color.
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As both a therapist and a movement instructor, you'll usually find me in my beloved leggings and a t-shirt with paint on it (I have two small children, everything has paint on it). Whether in person or virtual, my attitude is laidback and go with the flow.
But that doesn't mean I'm going to hand you a worksheet and send you on your way.​ I'm going to roll up my already-paint-covered-sleeves and get in there with you. No topic is off the table: pie-in-the-sky dreams? money? cellulite? constipation? All topics for therapy!
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I love pop culture and if you head to my blog, you'll see I love to combine pop culture with psychology. In session, I might drop a reference to Drag Race, Vanderpump Rules, or the latest Beyonce album.
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When I'm not working, you'll find me: dancing, lifting weights, or reading and watching The Real Housewives at the same time. If you run into me in public, I will 100% be wearing athleisure and chasing my two sons around the block. Sometimes the dog too!
My Specialties
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Sex Therapy
Talking to a complete stranger about your sex life might feel more than a little nerve-wracking, but if you're honest with yourself: you're nerv-cited!
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Things have felt out of alignment sexually for a long time. Whether you're partnered or alone, you feel disconnected from your sexuality.
You're not sure what you need, hell you might not even know what you want. And you're definitely stumped on how to how to get it.
The thought of asking your partner(s) to meet your intimacy needs is downright scary as hell.
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But here's a little secret: a lot of sex therapy is figuring out what you want and how to communicate about it in a way that gets everyone's needs met.
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Read more about sex therapy at the link below!
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Couples
How did we go from being best friends to strangers?
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You can still remember the good times but they're feeling farther and farther away. The commitment you made to your partner is a big reason why you're still around.
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Things are starting to feel routine, and not in a good way. If you have the same fight one more time, you're going to lose it. No one is satisfied by your sex life right now. Something's gotta change...
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There is a light at the end of the tunnel: couples' counseling. Therapy will help y'all overcome the problems that are getting in the way so we can dial up the connection and fun again.
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All Are Welcome!:
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LGBTQIA+ relationships
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Kink/BDSM
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Sex worker-affirmative
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Ethical/consensual non-monogamy, poly, and open relationships
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Couples working through any issues with sex and intimacy
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People Pleasers
You've been putting off therapy because you know it'll create a tradeoff- taking time for yourself feels like taking time away from those around you.
You don't think you have any extra time to squeeze out of your already busy schedule. You're worried that saying no to more people would make you mean or lazy. You're pretty certain there's nothing that could be done to fix your problems, not with so many others’ problems to worry about.
Like my clients, you deserve to put yourself first without worrying about letting down your partner, friends, or boss.
A rising tide lifts all boats! You healing will help everyone around you.
to work with Eleanor
steps
Step 1:
Read through my FAQs section before booking a discovery call. This will save us both time by helping you to determine if there’s anything about my style or policies that would prevent me from being the right fit for you.
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Step 2:
Schedule your free 20-minute consultation call with me. We’ll get to chat directly, clarify what you’re looking for from therapy, and determine if I’m the best fit for your needs.
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Click the link, then click "Request Appointment" and pick a time slot that works for you.
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*I am also happy to provide referrals if we decide not to move forward for whatever reason.
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Step 3:
If we decide to work together, you'll get scheduled for your first appointment (usually during the consult call but maybe via email after). Then, you'll receive an email before your first appointment with the link to your secure private client portal. You will need to complete this paperwork package before your first appointment or I will be unable to meet with you.
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The paperwork package includes a payment form where you include your preferred method of payment. Your card will automatically be charged on the day of your appointments moving forward.
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Step 4:
The First Appointment! Yay!
In our first appointment, we'll get to know each other and you'll get me caught up on what's been going on. We'll clarify your goals for our time working together and you'll walk away with clarity, confidence, and hope.
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