Last year, I published a blog post: 30 Reasons to Have Sex and I loved it so much I came out with a part two! So without further ado: 30 more reasons to have sex... by yourself or with a partner or partners. To decrease pain from an injury. To cast a spell. To end a fight. Hatefucking. To make art. Because anything by Jeremih came on the radio. You smelled your partners’ scent on their t-shirt they left behind. You want to role play a princess slaying a dragon. You want to be the dragon...

Same skill, only slightly different playlist. One of the biggest reasons I find somatically oriented work (be it therapy, training, or dance class) the most fulfilling is because of the focus on building a container. The process of facilitating & co-creating a safe container for healing/play/exploration/ whatever  mirrors a parallel process in our bodies of seeking adequate & flexible containment. Each container I’ve been in has its own flavor- based on who shows up & with what, what the...

Lessons from a sex therapist who’s breaking from normcore psychology (P.S. talking sex, not assault which is not sex because it is not consensual) As a therapist in training, one thing is harped on all of the time: “Your client’s safety should come first!” And that’s true to an extent! It’s a mix of caring about your safety because we care about you  and (let’s be honest) a fear of being sued. At DomCon last week, a presenter from The Kink Collective brought up a good point: BDSM isn’t safe....